When I get stressed out, or bored or feel like my life is out-of-control – I shop.
I go out and buy new clothes. I shop for food in grocery stores, specialty grocery stores, on health food sites online. I stock up on body care and make-up.
And how do I justify it? I tell myself, I need a wardrobe revamp or that my parents always told me to eat well or that I need those lotions ANYWAY.
I’m never in debt (though there was that one time in college my Dad was pretty understanding…) but I don’t like that it’s something I turn to, to feel in control, or better or distracted. It’s not sustainable (both personally and for the planet) and it’s unnecessary,
As my next birthday draws closer I’m starting to think about how I want my next year to unfold, what habits I want to discard and who I really want to be.
For the most part I am happy with the way I have evolved over the years. For instance:
– I now embrace the fact that I love writing
– Being nice is not a priority
– I’m more comfortable in my skin than before
– And because of the above, my diet is more about health and less about being thin
– I am able to negotiate with the demons in my mind so they don’t take over
So, if I have been able to achieve all of the above – maybe it’s time to take on the one bad habit I have never been able to kick – because I never wanted to address it.
But given how much I’ve been spending to prepare myself for my friend’s wedding (again I know it’s not my wedding), the amount I have left in my bank account is starting to look a lot like no money. Relative to before anyway.
SO, when all these Black Friday sales came around I had to concede that no, I cannot justify a purchase of an awesome sneaker/dress/wallet because I just can’t afford it.
20% off site-wide with the code – CYBERWKND20 and free shipping with orders above SGD50.
I’m obsessed with this dress:
Also this. Because it’s so, so pretty:
So that’s a small sliver of the stuff you can get on Black Friday that is easily shippable to Singapore.
And the next time you feel sorry for yourself because you can’t afford to buy yourself that little extra something, watch this video of this kid who got a tablet from his parents who can barely afford it and then cried and then made me cry.